New Year's Resolution

I have been thinking about my new year's resolution for a while and now I think it is time for me to share it with everybody so that I and everybody else can hold me accountable for my goals this year. Frankly speaking, this is the first time that I have treated it so seriously. If I say it, I will achieve it.

For the year of 2012, I would like to achieve:

1. Update my LinkedIn profile by the end of January.
2. Get within 120lbs by the end of the year, post the second baby.
3. Pass GMAT test by the end of the year. (Originally I planned to take the test during my maternity leave, but was persuaded by my fellow book club members to take care of myself and my new baby first during this critical period of time. So the timeline was changed.)
4. Do one thing out of my comfort zone each week. I will follow up each week on the progress of this goal.

Would you care to share your new year's resolution?

To love is to accept

I had been trying to persuade my husband into attending the Personal Mastery Seminar by K&A for the past several months and did not succeed. After I came back from the kick-off party of the Redwood Forest Club (formed by several PM graduates) last night, I realized by how much the PM event could help both him and me and thus started another round of persuasion today.

After I enumerated all sorts of benefits and rewards that PM can bring, the answer I got was still a firm "NO". Some of his reasons seemed like excuses to me, some were even quite silly. I was about to lose my patience (as I "sometimes" do with my husband) and asked him," How come that you cannot just trust me and go? What will you lose if you go? You will have the chance to bash it unmercifully after you really get to know what it is. You can even accuse me of anything you want. (My husband was referring to it as a cult...)" He got a little emotional as well, "I just don't understand why I do not have the freedom to choose what I would like to do or not to do. I remember that you have told me many times that you do not like being told what to do. If so, why are you still forcing others to do what they don't like to do? Can't you understand that nobody likes being told or forced to do things? I have given you the freedom to attend whatever events you like. Can't you give me the freedom to choose too?"

All of a sudden, I had a revelation moment, just like the ones that I had during PM. My husband was right. I should not have imposed my ideas on him, even if I thought that they would benefit him. Everybody has their own logical thinking and reasoning and they would know themselves the best in the end. Maybe I really did not understand how much my husband was worried about me being 8-month pregnant and taking care of Guagua by myself if he went to the PM event. Maybe he really is at the stage where he knows what he wants and how he will get there and does not need too much outside help. I should be thankful that he is not just agreeing with whatever I say. After all, he is my husband, who has his own judgement. And, to me, I learnt the lesson that TO LOVE IS TO ACCEPT.

That is the end of the discussion, that is, until he sees some major positive changes in me (I guess).